People using are often still seeing benefits of use and are ambivalent about stopping, while their loved ones are in ‘action stage’ – more than ready for behavior change! This discrepancy can cause resistance with nagging, confrontation or anger on one side and rebellion, distancing and more use on the other. The first step is often some degree of acceptance and surrender with improved self-care. Then communication can be enhanced in a way that improves a sense of support, permits a more collaborative look at possible behavior change, and consideration of options. The CRA-FT approach can lay that out for you.